Traditional Thoughts of The Average Man - by Tony Finch

Today’s subject: Lust and Love

Throughout life, both man and woman will feel the pro’s and con’s of Lust and Love. Some people believe that without Lust one can not truly have Love… they are like jelly and peanut butter. Others believe that Lust is on a completely different level as Love… like salad to a Big Mac. No matter what your feelings are on this subject, one thing is for certain… everybody gets a chance to taste both.

I often write about what the word “Love” actually represents. Unfortunately this has become a recycled carbon copy of it’s prior glory. We toss the term “I Love You” around so often that it blinds us from it’s true form… at least in my opinion. To understand what “Love” truly is, we first must be able to acknowledge “Lust”.

Lust is the bastard cousin to Love! They may be related and even connected to each other. However, they remain uncommitted to each other. Question 1 : How many of your ex-girlfriends/ex-boyfriends used the term “I Love You”? Question 2: How many times did you reply back “I love you too”? There is no wrong answer, these questions are only to support my opinion.

What we think is “Love” in fact, is only “Lust”. Some may say “I loved her but she did not love me” or is versa visa. The fact remains, only one of the two felt “Love”. Just like the old saying goes, “It takes two to Tango”! True Love, that which was created at the beginning… was sparked from the souls of two becoming one.

The whole point of this article is not to scare people from finding “Love”. In fact, this article is more of a self realization to my own life. Often I find people looking at me with pity, thinking that being single at 30 is a mental scare and should be hidden! That maybe I’m single out of fear of finding Love or giving my heart to someone. Some even question my sexuality, thinking a good looking man like myself without a girlfriend… means I’m gay (not that there is anything wrong with being gay). lol

However, the reality is this: I choose to be single! YES! I’m a 30 year old man who chooses to be single and guess what…. I’m happy! In fact I think there are more and more adults my age with the same mentality. The reason behind this growing number is simple, society is catching on! There is no timetable to finding “Love” and nobody should settle for “Lust”. It’s my opinion “Lust” is a huge factor in today’s divorce rate.

Being “Single” should not be a stamp saying “Loser” on your forehead… nor should you bend to the views of many. I also think we as single adults owe it to ourselves to get out there… meet people. Hell! meet as many people as possible… date to your blue in the face! You will never find Love without looking for it and most of the time it won’t fall on your lap. It comes down to being in the right place at the right time; and you’ll never be able to do that sitting on your ass!

I’m only saying we should date with our eyes open. Don’t allow yourself to fall into “False Love” (or Lust)… only to wake up years later next to somebody who you realize was a carbon copy of Love’s former self.